How can I deal with him forging into my industry when all I want is for his sadass-self to disappear?īy ignoring him.
Take it off! Pick ME! This is a winning strategy for fuckwits - it keeps everyone off-balance. Who can get him over the tragic breakup with Stabby The Artist Who Didn’t Sufficiently Appreciate Him? Ooh! Pick ME! I’m special! Wearing your signature look signals to the Schmoopies that they have to pick me dance harder. And it probably upsets his latest round of fuckbuddies too. The other reason copycatting is masterful mindfuckery is that it upsets you. Your ex did one better - he became an arty hippy chick, all the better to meet other prime kibble sources like you. So just list all the stuff Tracy likes, and the chumps will alight on his freak pond. Mine wanted to attract another “arty hippy chick.” I was prime kibbles. Why was this freak appropriating my interests? WHAT?! As I wrote, the man wouldn’t know an Otto Dix painting if it bit his left nipple. It might help polish his veneer of humanness.īack in the earlier days of my chumpdom, when I didn’t understand the wisdom of no contact, I took a glance at my ex’s dating profiles and was ASTOUNDED to see him list obscure singer-songwriters I like and claim he enjoyed trips to the Neue Gallerie. You can’t expect a shallow nitwit like your ex to actually invest in real interests and develop talents - no, he’ll just steal some of yours. Well yes, Stabby, but those dating profiles don’t write themselves. He’s just a conglomeration of appropriations. So, why is he trying to morph into a off-brand Stabby facsimile? Why is he professing to love the things he was indifferent about (or perhaps even hostile to) previously? Why is he stealing your coolness? Because he has no self. I wrote about this copycat phenomenon in “ Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life.” (The cartoon I used here “An Array of Jennifers” comes from that chapter.) The same thing happened to me, and it happened to my husband with his cheating ex too, so apparently the appropriation of your core essence is a THING. Yeah, an ex going all Single White Female would make me feel stabby too. I don’t want to give him the satisfaction of knowing I give two-Fs, but WHERE IS HIS SHAME?! Also, his work is embarrassing, and I hate the idea that he’s telling everyone that “I taught him everything he knows.” I just want to be classy and hold my head high, but God it’s exhausting. It feels melodramatic to call it harassment but I FEEL harassed! Why is he copying me, and how can I deal with him forging into my industry when all I want is for his sadass-self to disappear? I already hide from so many of my once favorite places, because I know I’ll run into one of his dozen cheating partners. Not surprisingly, things did not end well between us. (I know this is petty but WHATTHEFUCKKKK). He’s also bought the men’s version of a very distinct clothing piece I wear.
KELSEY SMITH MATTHEW BANKS REGISTRY PROFESSIONAL
I looked at his social media and saw that he’s friended all of my professional contacts, and even had the balls to ripoff one of my pieces. Recently, he texted to congratulate me for bringing HIM success in his new career choice… which is the same career as ME. It’s been a couple of years, but he still reaches out and seems clueless as to why I hate him. We had four D-days before I had the strength to get the hell out of there, so yes, I’m a super chump.
My ex cheated on me relentlessly, with a mind-boggling amount of women.
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